How to Overcome Complacency and Resistance in Your Daily Life

Feb. 16, 2018 By Dave Nelson, Survivor, Founder, CEO, Speaker & Coach at Milestone Mind

Have you become complacent?

Webster’s dictionary defines complacency as:

A false security of self where one continues in a comfortable and satisfied state, despite being unaware of the potential dangers ahead, or of the shortfalls they embody.

To me, being complacent means you’re not satisfied or comfortable, and you’re unaware of the potential dangers ahead.

You’re on a particular path, but deep down in your heart, you know you're allowing your past to define who you are today. You know you want to reach new heights in whatever you’re doing, but for whatever reason, you’re sitting back a bit, and you’ve become reactive, rather than proactive.

In this post, I’d like to give you some tips on how to move away from this complacent state, into a mindset that will help you become the best possible version of yourself in your day-to-day life.

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How Becoming Process-Oriented Can Help You Overcome Complacency

One of the best things you can do to overcome complacency is to shift your approach, and try to become more process-minded.
To show you what I mean, let’s take a look at the New England Patriots.
Yes, I realize you may not like the Patriots (I know a lot of Americans don’t). However you feel about them personally, though, you must admit that the Patriots are an incredibly talented team.
In the NFL, we often see a lot of one hit wonders – teams that win one Super Bowl, then disappear from the ranks of the top football teams, because they buy into their own hype and become complacent.

The Patriots do the opposite. When the Patriots win the Super Bowl, they say something like, “We’re going to enjoy this moment. We’re satisfied and proud, but it’s our approach and our journey that we’re proud of…not this single victory. It is our process that we’re satisfied with, and that process gave us the opportunity to win this Super Bowl.”
After big wins, they immediately snap back into their process-minded approach, and they’re even more devoted and excited about their approach. They know that the approach is the cause, and the Super Bowl victory is the effect or outcome.
To start shifting your own focus to a process-minded approach, ask yourself:

  • How do I sustain success in my life?
  • How can I continue to push myself in a way that is enjoyable and challenging?
  • How can I become more competent in my life?

Rather than focusing on outcomes, having a process-minded a approach can help you overcome complacency and give yourself a long-term kick in the pants to continually improve. When you shift your mindset like this, you’ll enjoy the process of reaching a particular summit, rather than just celebrating when you reach the top.

4 Tips for Beating Resistance

Have you ever experienced stomach pain, anxiety, or procrastination when you’re trying to motivate yourself to make a change or do something new? I know I have!
That feeling is called resistance, and we all experience it.
Resistance is just your body and mind giving you a message that you need to keep going. You need to fully commit, and devote yourself to the process that matters to you.
But many times, that’s easier said than done. Resistance is the fodder for complacency, so  if you’re going to become the best possible version of yourself, you’re going to need some tools for dealing with resistance resistance. 
I recommend four basic steps for overcoming resistance:

Step One: Take a Single Step.

The first thing you need to do is change your frame of mind, and start thinking about taking a single step, rather than taking on a huge project in your professional or personal life.
Take a “micro” step today, then take another one tomorrow. We run marathons one step at a time, and we can do the same thing with becoming who we most want to be in our lives.   
What does a micro step look like for you? Maybe you’ll read for 10 minutes on topic that matters to you. Maybe you’ll do one extra push up at the gym every morning.
Whatever your steps are, just make sure you’re taking one every day – and those steps will add up to making things happen on a huge scale for you.

Step Two: Commit to Living Your Values.

Next, I recommend taking a look at your values. These are the things that are most important to you in your life.

People often times struggle identifying what they're values actually are as they get older, but it is critical you do this. Let us help you by getting you started with the Milestone Mind Institute for free.
Once you’ve identified what your values are, commit to them, and let those values serve as your highest priorities every day.

Let’s look at an example.

If you know you want to be healthier, the best approach is not to seek a specific outcome (like a number on the scale), but to try to achieve wellbeing and vitality. Focusing on your values can be highly motivating, and your value can help you decide on what micro steps to take each day.
Having clear, values-centered priorities can help you break through resistance when things get tough.

Step Three: Be Flexible.

The next step is to detach yourself from particular outcomes. Remember that outcomes or obstacles don't define you – just like with the Patriots, it’s your approach that defines you.
So be flexible in your outcomes, but disciplined in your process. Have commitment not just to the end goal, but to the journey itself.
Take those micro steps toward your goal, and be committed – but be flexible in what you might produce at the end of the process. It may not be what you initially had planned!

Step Four: Delight in the Journey.

When something new comes your way, whether it’s a victory, some potentially negative feedback, or a new job or project – put a smile on your face, and learn from what that new thing is trying to tell you.
Everything you face, positive or negative, is merely an opportunity to grow and learn.
Instead of focusing on setbacks, revel in the journey you’re on, and what you’re learning along the way.

Blast Away Complacency and Resistance, Starting Today.

It is possible to battle complacency, and win.
The key is shifting to a process-oriented approach, and then taking active steps to combat resistance. Those steps can include:

  • Focusing on taking micro steps.
  • Prioritizing your values.
  • Being flexible about outcomes.
  • Delighting in the journey.

With these steps, it is possible to overcome complacency and get to a new state where you feel satisfied and fulfilled.
But as with everything you do, taking the first step is the most important part.

Next Steps...

Step One: Sign Up for The Milestone Mind Institute

People often times struggle identifying what their values actually are as they get older, but it is critical you do this.

Let us help you by getting you started with the Milestone Mind Institute for free.



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