Where Did Your Current Mindset Come From?

Apr 17, 2018 By Dave Nelson, Survivor, Founder, CEO, Speaker & Teacher at Milestone Mind

In the simplest terms, your mindset is like a car engine that powers your mind (and your life) forward.
If you treat your engine well, and make sure it gets plenty of oil and regular tune-ups, it will run well for you.

And if you can foster a healthy mindset, you’re going to be able to your life the way you want.
But have you ever thought about where you current mindset comes from?
Is your mindset truly yours? Is it something you’ve contemplated carefully and chosen for yourself?
Or does your mindset come from some outside source or influence?
Let’s dig a little deeper into these questions.

Is Your Mindset Really Yours?

There are a lot of “social” mindsets in our modern world. These are the collective mindsets that are set by society, influenced by the media, and compounded by the people we come into contact with every day.
Right now there’s a really strong collective mindset that is fixated on the idea of hyper-focus. This mindset drives people toward things like:

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  • Wanting immediate success.
  • Never being satisfied with our current situations.
  • Being on our phones and computers all day, every day.
  • Turning away from our friends and family in favor of constantly striving.

Sound familiar?
The “Always Be Closing” speech, delivered by Alec Baldwin in the movie Glengarry Glen Ross is a classic example of this kind of mindset.

If you’re constantly working when you’re supposed to be spending time with your family, you’re always on your phone, and you spend every day racing around trying to cross tasks off your to-do list without being sure exactly why you’re doing it, you’ve probably got this collective mindset.

It’s easy to slip into patterns like this if we’re not thinking about our mindsets consciously. After all, the people and messages around us have an impact – and mindsets are contagious!

But it is possible to consciously choose satisfaction in your life. It is possible to put your phone down, spend time with your family, and choose a far more satisfying path.

The Magic of Defining Your Own Mindset

You can be the master of your own mindset.
You can choose your own path, and decide what you most want in life, how you want to interact with people, and what attitude you’re going to adopt every day.
You can choose to give someone a smile when you see that person in the grocery store.
You can be the first one to laugh during a wonderful conversation.
You can say please and thank you every single day – even if you don’t necessarily feel like it.
Imagine what a difference a positive, values-based mindset could make on the world.
If we collectively decided to foster a positive mindset and attitude, we’ll be able to discover love and harmony in every personal connection we have – every interaction we have each day. 

Picture the incredible ripple effect that could have.
A positive mindset could spread from one person, to the next, to the next, like a wildfire of beneficial and constructive energy.
Deciding to contribute a positive mindset and attitude to the world could change the world, one small step at a time.
I've experienced this myself over the last few years of my life. As I shifted my mindset, I saw the beauty and love in humanity. I continue to see everything that's right with people as I carry this mindset.

You too can move away from the collective mindset, in which is everything's wrong, the sky is falling, and you need to fear everything.

To be able to create a healthy, forward-moving mindset, you must be the captain of your ship. 

You have to decide what you’re putting out into the world, and what you’d like to get back in return

To make this shift, you must ask yourself: “How is my mindset serving me today?”

If you don’t like the answer you give, your next question must be: “What can I do to improve my mindset, and start moving toward what I really want in life?”

Choosing a Mindset That Lets You to Become the Best Version of Yourself

The great thing about mindset is that it’s completely adaptable, and there is no final destination.

Shifting your mindset is a process, and it’s all about growth and forward motion. It means you’re trying to move in a direction that matters to you. You’re trying to reach a satisfied state that is free from guilt, shame, fear, and anxiety. You’re trying to make the world a better place.

I challenge you to ask yourself today, “Is the mindset I’m carrying a social, collective one? Or is it truly mine?”

Then decide to make a change. Don’t just criticize your current mindset if you recognize there’s a problem – do something to shift it. Take action to create the mindset you truly want in the world.

The world needs this kind of positive change right now. It needs our absolute best – and it all starts with you.
Remember – your mindset is the car engine that drives your life forward.
If you are trucking along on your road of life at 55 miles an hour, you’re going to notice if your engine isn’t running right.
Your job is to take a minute, pull off the road, look under the hood, and make some much-needed adjustments.
When you’re done, you’ll be back on the road, flying down the highway with a smile on your face, with your engine purring like a De Lorean.

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